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Carefarm Retreat for Traumatic Grief

A contemplative retreat for traumatic bereavement at the Selah Carefarm near Sedona, Arizona

The Selah Carefarm & Andy’s Sanctuary offer a unique evidence-based therapeutic and safe community to receive counseling and participate in remembrance rituals, connect with others (humans and non humans) who have suffered loss, and find space for your grief in a safe, natural environment.

Program Information

Program Structure for Traumatic Grief

Our programs are structured days of ‘selah,’ pausing to be with grief. These programs are facilitated by highly skilled practitioners who are CBC certified (Compassionate Bereavement Care), and some have their own personal experiences of traumatic loss. The program includes group counseling, mutual engagement with more than 50 rescued animals, ritual, expressive arts, time in restorative spaces, outdoor activities, working with nature, and contemplative practice (optional). The daily programs begin at 9am and ends at 2:30pm.

Meals

All meals are plant based and include three per day:

  • Continental, self-serve breakfast
  • Prepared lunch
  • Prepared, self-serve dinner

You may also bring snacks and they should be plant based only in accord with our carefarm policy.

Note: Our facilities are alcohol and smoke free. Uber and other car services are not available in the area.

Additional Services:
Yoga and Sound Therapy are included in the programs however extra sessions can be scheduled at a separate cost.

Important:
If you applied for a group and we do not have any other applications at the same time, we will work with you to either reschedule your program or offer a personal program to you during the time you applied for.

For everyone’s safety, engagement with the Carefarm animals must be supervised by Carefarm staff member. Please do not go into the Carefarm areas without a staff member.

Traveling to and from the Carefarm

Phoenix is the most convenient airport to get to the Carefarm. It is about 90 minutes from the Carefarm by car. We highly recommend to rent a car, due to the fact that the Carefarm is about 15 minutes from the next grocery stores and restaurants. There is an airport shuttle that you can book and schedule to drop you off and pick you up at the Carefarm:

The shuttle may take up to three hours due to stops.

If you are attending a group program, please book your flights to arrive in the early afternoon of your arrival day.

(Check-in will be between 3pm and 5pm) and your return flight after 3:30pm on Saturday.

Program Descriptions

Please see below our programs and services at the Selah Carefarm.

Our Carefarm offers a unique evidence-based therapeutic and safe intentional grief community communing with rescued animals and the natural world in an ecotherapeutic setting.

Please let us know ahead of application, if you have a mobility impairment or if you are currently pregnant so that you are fully aware of certain conditions at the carefarm and the surrounding area before you apply.

Because of the nature of what we do and the fragility of the grievers who come here, if you are actively using drugs or alcohol, do not apply for our program until you are clean or sober. If you present as incapacitated by substances or inebriated, you will be asked to leave for your own safety, the safety of other people and animals, and to maintain the safety of this space. We have a very strict no drugs or alcohol policy at the Carefarm.

Due to the very delicate nature of our work, we can welcome families with children outside of our grief programs during special family weeks. We can accept children above the age of 7. Please inquire about special family dates!

Visitors can stay at Andy’s Sanctuary during their visit or stay offsite and come to the Carefarm for the scheduled time every day.

A group program for bereaved parents held Wednesday through Saturday. This small group program accommodates up to 8 participants and follows a structured schedule led by our specially trained CBC Carefarm grief counselors. The Roots Program is exclusively for bereaved parents.

A group program for extended family members held Wednesday through Saturday. This program accommodates up to 8 participants and follows a structured schedule led by our specially trained CBC grief counselors. The Roots Family Program is designed for traumatically bereaved family members.

This individual, private program allows you to choose the duration that best suits your needs (note: counseling is unavailable from Sunday to Tuesday). It is guided by a specially trained CBC Carefarm counselor, following a personalized schedule and process. This program is designed for anyone who has experienced the traumatic loss of a primary family member.

Visitors can arrange a private 3-hour day visit to the Carefarm, accompanied by a staff member. The Anima Program features a remembrance ritual for your loved one and time with the Carefarm animals. Please note that grief counseling is not included in this program.

Tasoom is only available for returning guests. It is not designed for newly bereaved visitors.

Tasoom is a Wednesday-to-Saturday program, primarily a self-directed personal self-care retreat. It includes daily two-hour blocks of Carefarm time with the animals, as well as yoga and sound therapy. Participants may also schedule a remembrance ritual with one of our Carefarm counselors. A two-hour grief counseling session with a Carefarm counselor is available at an additional cost.

PROGRAM PRICING

Here is a glimpse of our general fees for our private and group programs at the Selah Carefarm.

ROOTS 1 and ROOTS FAMILY
($1500 + $75 cleaning fee)
Includes lodging and a full program with group counseling. The program includes Yoga, guided Carefarm time with the animals, Group counseling, Creative expression and rituals, Sound Therapy. Individual counseling is not available during this program. *Visitors can request to arrive a day early, add an additional night, and schedule a two – hour individual counseling session before the program begins at a separate cost (hourly rate).

TASOOM
($1400, plus $100 cleaning fee)
Includes lodging and program with Yoga, Sound Therapy and Carefarm time with the animals. Counseling may be added at a separate cost. Tasoom is only available for returning guests. It is not designed for newly bereaved visitors.

ANIMA
(Varies in pricing as seen below)
Day visit: 3 hours includes tour through the Carefarm and remembrance ritual. Counseling may be added at a separate cost.

Private day visit (1-2 visitors) = $400
Small group (3-5 visitors) = $600
Larger group (6+ visitors) – please inquire about rates.

PRIVATE PROGRAMS
For private, customized traumatic grief programs (BODHI), our CBC certified Carefarm counselors and specialized Carefarm staff members have a minimal hourly rate of $120/hour. Our rates for individual visits depend on our visitor’s annual household income. We will provide you an estimate for your visit once we have coordinated with you how you would like your program structured. The Selah Carefarm does not accept insurance or provide super-bills.

***Please note, costs may vary depending on special requests/needs. Additional fees may apply. For visits where lodging is not included, most room rates are $120 per night, plus a $75 cleaning fee.

FAQs

Will I see Dr. Joanne Cacciatore while I'm at the Selah Carefarm?

Dr. Cacciatore may be at the Selah Carefarm at various times. However, she’s a full-time professor with ASU and is often in research meetings, analyzing data, grading papers, meeting with students, or taking some too- rare ‘down time’ when she can find it, and the few clients she sees are booked well in advance. She’s also regularly out of town for speaking engagements. If you do see her, feel free to say hello or wave! Our counselors and staff are highly trained and follow Dr. Cacciatore’s model. We are confident you will find the compassionate support you need from our staff and counselors during your stay. Although Dr. Cacciatore would love to visit with each attendee and honor your loved one with an open heart, please understand that she may not be available during your stay due to her ongoing commitments throughout the year. Thank you so much for understanding.

Who are the clients of the Selah Carefarm?

While we would like to be able to help everyone who is grieving, sadly we lack the available resources in land space, housing, counselors, and finances. Our primary focus, thus, is for those who have lost a child at any age and from any cause or those who have lost a primary family member (spouse/partner, sibling, grandchild, parent) to homicide, suicide, Covid-19 or prolonged illness, or other untimely death at an unexpected age. We hope one day a carefarm that uses our model will have the resources to provide aid to anyone who has lost a loved one.

What are the check-in times for a program or visit?

For our group and individual programs, the check-in time is between 3-5 pm. Dinner will be served at 5pm on the first evening, followed by a group introduction and meeting at 6pm. If you will arrive late, please contact us to let us know so we can plan accordingly.

For personal grief visits, the check-in time is between 3-5 pm. No meals will be prepared but you are welcome to prepare your own meal or leave the carefarm during your stay.

What if I want to spend more time with the animals?

If you’d like to spend more time with the animals than scheduled in your program or private schedule, please let one of the counselors know. Chores take place in the morning and evening, and we can get you started with one of our farm hands to help care for the animals during your stay.

For personal grief visits, the check-in time is between 3-5 pm. No meals will be prepared but you are welcome to prepare your own meal or leave the carefarm during your stay.

What are the check-out times for a program or visit?

Check-out times on the day of departure are at 11am. This allows our staff to prepare the rooms for our next guests. We ask that the morning before you depart, you wash all sheets and towels, then remake your bed before departure. If you have an early morning departure and are limited on time, please put your laundry in the washer and start it. Then let a staff person know so they can ensure it is dried and returned to the room.

For personal grief visits, the check-in time is between 3-5 pm. No meals will be prepared but you are welcome to prepare your own meal or leave the carefarm during your stay.

What if I want to stay longer than the scheduled program?

We do allow for extended stays in Andy’s Sanctuary. Please let the Family Services Coordinator know you would like to arrive early or stay longer. If there is space available in the house, the coordinator can extend your stay.

Can I stay offsite for a program or visit?

Yes, this is a great option for those who wish to bring an animal or other family members (especially children) with them who will not be participating in the programs. We just ask that you plan to attend the full scheduled program and recommend additional time after the structured schedule to connect with other grievers staying in the house.

Can I bring my pet?

No. We love animals but for the safety of all humans and animals, we cannot allow grievers to bring pets with them. Our large guardian dogs are not friendly to new animals. Staying offsite in a nearby AirBnB that allows pets may be a great option. If you would like help finding one, please let us know and our staff may be able to help.

If I am not vegan, can I bring my own non vegan food?

No, this is not permitted. Our core spiritual principle is Ahimsa, the practice of non-violence to all living beings. We love our grievers and our animals alike, so we ask that you strictly adhere to our guidelines and read your food labels if you bring anything onto the carefarm. If we find non vegan food in the pantry or refrigerator, it will be discarded.

Can we leave the carefarm during the program or visit?

Yes. We ask for your full participation during the scheduled program or appointments, but you are free to come and go as you wish. There are several recommended restaurants, hikes, and activities around our local area and our staff can help you decide which is right for you.

If I am a smoker, where can I smoke?

We aim to maintain a clean and eco-friendly environment on the carefarm. Therefore, we do not permit smoking onsite. However, you are free to leave the carefarm as needed. As a reminder, we do not allow alcohol or non-prescription drugs onsite either. We find that is most helpful to allowing grievers to inhabit their grief through fully accessing their feelings.

What if I want to bring my family or a group of grievers to participate with me in a group program?

We often have program participants who bring a spouse or other family member to participate. However, there may be limited space for a larger number of participants during a scheduled program. If you would like to schedule a private group program with four or more members and there is not availability on our current schedule, please talk with our Family Services Coordinator about scheduling a private group program.

Can children participate in the programs?

Because of our open waterways and animals, we can only allow children over 7 visit the carefarm for their safety. We also realize that some grievers may be sensitive around children, therefore we do offer family week programs and personal grief or day visits that can include children between 8 – 17 years of age.

If I am moved to donate to support the Selah Carefarm or sponsor a memorial to my loved one, how can I do that?

We are a non-profit organization that depends on donations and sponsorships to help maintain our carefarm, care for our animals, keep costs affordable for grievers, and provide scholarships to grievers who need financial support to participate. Therefore, if you feel moved to donate or create a sponsored memorial, we would be grateful for your generosity. You can donate directly on our website homepage through the link provided here. If you wish to create a sponsorship, you can contact our Executive Director, Kelli Montgomery, to determine what opportunities are available.

How can I continue receiving grief counseling services after leaving the carefarm?

We have a Compassionate Bereavement Care (CBC) provider training program where we train medical and mental health professionals from around the world. If you are looking for a trained grief-sensitive counselor near you, please visit our CBC Provider Directory. If there is not one in your area, you may widen your search and find someone in your state that will work remotely with you. We also offer online support groups that many who have been to the carefarm attend.

How can I get a grief mentor to assist with my grief journey?

Our HOPE Mentor program is a group of bereaved parents and family members who are further along in their grief journey and wish to help new grievers navigate their grief. If you are interested in a mentor, please contact our Executive Director, Kelli Montgomery, kelli.montgomery@missfoundation.org. It will be helpful to share a few details about your own story that may be important in matching you with a mentor who may share similarities with their own story.

If I want to purchase Selah Carefarm merchandise, is there anything available?

Yes, many participants want to go home with merchandise after spending several days with us. Currently, we do have t-shirts, tumblers, hats, calendars, workbooks, and books available for purchase onsite. This will save on shipping costs if you prefer to pick it up in person rather than online.

Can I get a refund if I have to cancel?

The MISS Foundation Selah Carefarm has a no refund policy. If you need to cancel you can reschedule within the next 12 months of your original appointment.

Request Availability for Traumatic Grief Carefarm Program

This form is for traumatically bereaved individuals/families only. Please fill out this short form so that we may determine if we have a space available at this time.

If you have violated our rules intentionally or repeatedly, used abusive or demeaning language in person or on email to our volunteers or staff, or do not treat us or our animals or our land and neighbors heart-fully and respectfully, we will not accommodate your booking request or, if you are on site, we will ask you to leave the premises as gently and kindly as possible. We know grievers are hurting and we honor that pain; however, we cannot allow our carefarmily to be vessels for misdirected rage or just plain bad behavior.