Selah Retreat: Pause, Reflect, Discover Meaning

Please note: The group retreats are full.

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Fully Inhabited Grief: A contemplative retreat for traumatic bereavement near breathtaking Sedona, Arizona

The Selah Retreat is the MISS Foundation’s contemplative retreat for bereaved parents. The 4-day retreat, located near beautiful Sedona Arizona, is led by our experienced facilitators who work with attendees on fully inhabiting their grief. It’s a time to pause, reflect and discover meaning. The retreat provides a supportive, safe environment for attendees to be with a community of other bereaved parents who have experienced similar traumatic loss.

Retreat Itinerary

Thursday | Evening Welcome & Introductions (arrive 3-5 p.m.)
  • 3 pm – 5 pm – Arrival and check in, meet and greet
  • Dinner
  • Contemplative instruction, retreat etiquette
  • Meditative movement
  • To pause, reflect, and find meaning in grief: Introductions and large group exercise
  • Contemplative prayer/meditation
Friday | Being with Grief
  • Breakfast
  • How to be with our grief: Contemplative instruction
  • Pause and attune, small group exercise/dyads
  • Lunch
  • This moment of grief: Meditative movement
  • Intentional solitude and grief exercise
  • Loving ourselves through grief: Small group self-compassion and care exercise
  • Dinner
  • Heartful and mindful mourning: Evening colloquy (talk)
Saturday | Surrendering to Grief
  • Breakfast
  • Surrendering to grief: Small group exercise
  • Turning toward grief: Contemplative instruction
  • Lunch
  • Waking up to grief: Meditative movement
  • Turning toward the other: Creative prompt
  • Dinner
  • Re-member-ing our dead: Contemplative instruction
  • Trusting the Wisdom of Grief: Sunset evening colloquy
Sunday | Doing with Grief (depart at 11 a.m.)
  • Breakfast
  • Doing with grief: Deep listening small group exercise and exchange
  • Being called to compassionate action: Large group exercise
  • Moving toward the other: Meditative movement
  • Closing colloquy
“Pursue some path, however narrow and crooked, in which you can walk with love and reverence."
Henry David Thoreau

Leading the Retreat

Dr. Joanne Cacciatore, Founder

Dr. Joanne Cacciatore is the founder of the MISS Foundation, the Selah Carefarm, and the Center for Loss & Trauma. She is a research professor at Arizona State University and author of many peer reviewed articles, book chapters, and books. Her life changed in 1994 when her newborn daughter died.
Genmitsu Kahn, Family Services Coordinator

Roshi Monika Genmitsu Kahn holds a Swiss master’s degree in Adult Education, is certified in body centered Psychosomatic Counseling and is a certified Provider in Compassionate Bereavement Care. She is an esteemed meditation teacher and specializes in mindfulness, contemplative practices, and rituals.

Price and Location

The retreat will be held at the beautiful Selah Carefarm near Sedona, Arizona.

The registration fees include lodging for 3 nights/four days, all vegan meals, retreat fee, and materials/supplies. A shared-room fee is $650 per person, private room fee is $850 per person. Please plan to check-in between 3-5pm on Thursday and depart Sunday morning by 11am.  Register online below.

To foster a fully present experience, we ask that all electronic devices remain in your cars, outside of the retreat. Participants must remain at the Selah House and participate in all aspects of the program.  This retreat is appropriate for secularists and people of all faith traditions. Please note, this retreat involves meeting the carefarm animals and walking on unpaved surfaces which may be difficult for people with mobility problems. Please let us know in advance if you have mobility problems.


Space is limited. Please make sure to fill out ALL fields. Make sure to select your dates or your registration may be canceled. Payments may be made online at the end of your registration. For payment questions, please email Your registration will be complete, and your space secured once your payment has been made in full. We do not offer any refunds after the registration deadline. There are no refunds for withdrawals once a program has begun. If you would like a shared room and do not have a roommate, we will pair you with another attendee. Thank you!

For more information or questions about the retreat, please contact us here.

Selah: A Contemplative Retreat – Frequently Asked Questions

When should I arrive?

Please arrive at Selah House in Cornville AZ (address will be provided to participants) on Thursday between 3-5 p.m.

Sedona and the surrounding area is easily one of the world’s most beautiful and popular travel destinations. If you can schedule your extended vacation around the retreat, we highly recommend it. Things to see and do in Sedona include hiking, mountain biking, Palatki and Honanki ruins, jeep tours, helicopter tours, cave exploring, camping, Slide Rock, hiking in creeks and mountains, and so much more!

What about phones and electronic devices?

We would prefer you leave all electronic devices and phones in your rooms or vehicles during our program days.

What if I don’t get in on time to register? How does a waiting list work?

The retreats are first come first serve. Once a retreat fills, you may select the  waitlist option on the dates you would like to attend. As we have cancellations for a retreat, we will offer the spots to those on the waiting list. Once a spot becomes available in the retreat, the next person on the waiting list will be contacted. At that time, we will give you a deadline by which we will need you to respond, or we will move onto the next person on the waiting list. The week leading up to the retreat, we will need a very quick response.

Can I attend only a day?

Because of the nature of this event, please plan to attend the entire retreat.

What time do the retreats start and end?

Please arrive at Selah House between 3:00 and 5:00 pm on Thursday. The retreat will end around 11 a.m. on Sunday.

What is a typical retreat day like?

The itinerary is available above

What is the nearest airport?

The nearest airport is Phoenix Sky Harbor Airport which is approximately 2.5 hours away.

Are there shuttles from Phoenix Sky Harbor Airport?

Please Google shuttles from the Phoenix Sky Harbor Airport. Many shuttles were canceled due to COVID.  Some  shuttles may be back in operation by the time of the retreat. The zipcode of Selah House is 86325. Rental cars from the Phoenix airport may be the best option. It is approximately a 2-hour drive from the airport.

How to do drive to Selah House?

We will provide directions to each attendee prior to the retreat

What is included as part of the retreat programs/training programs?

The 4-day retreat, room accommodations during the length of the program. All meals are included. Rooms are shared, and if you would like a private room for an extra fee, that option is available on the application form. Couples will be automatically placed in the same (shared) room. Please note you are a couple on your registration. Also, if you are attending with a friend and would like to be in the same room, please let us know on the application.

How are the meals?

Delicious vegan meals will be served at Selah House during your stay. Only vegan foods are allowed at Selah House and the Selah Carefarm out of respect for the carefarm animals (and all animals).

Is the retreat specific to any certain religious or spiritual tradition?

No. This retreat is intended for any person, secular or from any faith background, who is suffering with traumatic grief after the death of their Beloved. Most retreatants will have experienced the death of a baby, child, teenager, or adult child, by any cause.

How are the accommodations?

The retreat accommodations at Selah House include guest rooms that are shared  or private (1 person only) and decorated in a style conducive for relaxation and meditation. To maintain an environment conducive for meditation, the rooms do not have televisions or phones.

Can I bring my pet?

We do not allow pets.

What should I bring to a retreat?

The climate is changeable, so bring a variety of loose, comfortable, casual, layered clothing. Bring outdoor walking shoes as well as slip-on shoes. Bring hat and sunscreen in the spring/summer and/or rain gear in the fall/winter for outdoor walking. A flashlight and zafu or meditation pillow is a good idea. Please do not bring scented perfumes or lotions. You may also want to bring a jacket or shawl. Please bring long pants for the carefarm. It’s a good idea to bring ear plugs if you’re sensitive to noise. Please bring tissues, a few pens or pencils, notebook or journal, and photos of your loved one.

What if I don’t have any experience with meditation or contemplative prayer?

The retreat includes brief periods of meditation/prayer instruction woven throughout a carefully crafted program to teach mindfulness to the traumatically bereaved. This retreat will work for both beginners and advanced practitioners.

Who should attend?

This retreat is geared for bereaved parents and is only for adults who are traumatically bereaved. The time since death does not matter though this environment may not be suitable for persons who are bereaved within a few weeks. Children under the age of 18 are not suitable for this retreat.

When do I need to pay for the retreat?

Payment for retreat is due at the time you register.

What do I do if I need to cancel?

Send an email to us here as you know you’ll have to cancel. There is a cancellation fee of $100 if made within 30 days prior to the retreat start date. There are no refunds for any reason for cancellations after that time. Please save your email and if you do not receive a cancelation notice back within 48 hours, please call us with your intent to cancel at 602-279-6477.

There are no refunds for cancellations within 30 days of the retreat, or for withdrawals once a program has begun.

Can I pay by credit card?

Yes you may pay by credit card through online registration


Here is a look back at some of the memorable connections which took place at our previous retreat location in Sedona Mago.

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Our Compassionate Bereavement Care® Providers are located in cities throughout the world. They receive specialized training in traumatic grief and compassionate care.